Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Nuclear families

Quoth Twisty

One house, two frustrated parents, two neurotic kids: it’s got to go. It’s a weird, irrational, often narcissistic construct that forces the modern gal into an impossible life of stress, isolation, and failure: she’s a sex provider, fetus incubator, domestic drudge, child care professional, inventory maintainer, bacon bringer-homer, and fry-it-up-in-a-panner. The only way a woman in this day and age can compete with dudes in the public sphere is to contract out half (or more) of the labor generated by this inefficient, insular arrangement (and employing nannies and housekeepers just reinforces an already oppressive caste system).But because the nuclear family model so elegantly screws women and children over, it has become the most cherished cornerstone of the megatheocorporatocracy. The first job of the nuclear family is to indoctrinate its kids with a thorough appreciation for the Global Accords Governing Fair Use of Women, so essential for the replication of patriarchal mores. The nuclear family relies on guilt to shackle women to the home. The nuclear family makes women financially and relationshipally dependent, feeds corporate greed, replicates heternormativity, promotes social conservatism, inflicts suffering when it fails (as do more than half of nuclear families), and supports fast food, disposable culture, and poor taste.

and a side note from the comments:
This "having it all" thing is really just an enormous load of stinking patriarchy-produced crap anyway. It's shorthand for "participating in the megatheocorporatocracy like the mindless consumer we want you to be." In fact, I would venture to say that NOT "having it all" - indeed, REFUSING to "have it all" - is the first step in the Revolution.

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Lessons from camper life

Or, as referred to by 3 year olds, the Gremlin Cave.

I garden better after a healthy float, with a significant buzz, and help.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Bougie salads

Today's salad is garden mesclun, spinach, and scape pesto, prosciutto, grilled halloumi, lemon and cucumber. Grey's and Susan D's Riesling.

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Monday, May 21, 2012

Lessons in Camper Life

The camper is warm enough to cook puppies during the day, so they come with me to work. Dottie poops on the carpet to show her general attitude at life, so we open the windows, the breeze knocks everything down and ruins my pussywillows. BUT I'm getting better at waking up in my bunk without hitting my head!

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Love, Forgive Me

Sierra DeMulder 
My sister told me a soul mate is not the person who makes you the happiest but the one who makes you feel the most, who conducts your heartto bang the loudest, who can drag you giggling with forgiveness from the cellar they locked you in. It has always been you. You are the firstperson I was afraid to sleep next to,not because of the fear you would leave in the night but because I didn’t want to wake upungracefully. In the morning, I crawled over your lumbering chest to wash my face and pinchmy cheeks and lay myself out like a still-lifebeside you. Your new girlfriend is pretty like the cover of a cookbook. I have said her name into the empty belly of my apartment. Forgive me.When I feel myself falling out of love with you, I turn the record of your laughter over, reposition the needle. I dust the dirty living room of your affection.I have imagined our children. Forgive me. I made up the best parts of you. Forgive me. When you told me to look for you on my wedding day, to pauseon the alter for the sound of your voice before sinking myself into the pond of another love, forgive me. I mistook it for a promise.

Tuesday, April 17, 2012


Local kale and broccolini (yay spring!), the end of last summer's garlic, local Canadian bacon with evoo (bought in bulk from the coop and stored in a brown beer bottle, it's awesome), salt, lemon juice and some sherry. I topped it with local eggs poached (4 minutes seems to be the magic number) and Parmesan. Drinking Lillet on ice.

Not to shabby for cleaning out the fridge night.

And fully realizing how pretentious this all becomes, I had a revelatory yoga class. I am now fully a believer. After an ill advised (because I am embarrassingly out of shape and in denial) run on Sunday and two days of groaning with each step, I'm all stretched out and ready to run again tomorrow. Anyone want to come?

Monday, April 16, 2012

Adventures of the Feminist shirt

"Feminist huh, my sister's one of those. She takes Women's Studies and stuff."
"I don't understand what that means. Do you hate penises?"
"Don't wish me happiness. I don't expect to be happy all the time. It's gotten beyond that somehow. Wish me courage and strength and a sense of humor. I will need them all." - Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Men of quality

Happened to catch a particularly inane On Point on the way back from classes today and will leave you with one thought:

Men who are intimidated or threatened by women making more money have merely come to the realization that they no longer have blanket power. If a woman doesn't need you based on financial necessity you're going to have to actually not be a crap person in order to maintain a relationship. I can't find where this is a bad thing for relationships.

Monday, March 12, 2012

Modified Eggs Benedict Salad

CSA spring greens (yay!!)
VT bacon (birthday present from a vegetarian)
Cabot cheddar
Poached eggs (from friend's chickens)
Lemon juice

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Airing dirty laundry

I made laundry detergent of borax, washing soda and a bar of soap over the summer and haven't yet run out. The recipe estimated it costs around $.01 per 1/2 cup load.

I don't have a washing machine so typically I bring loads of dirty laundry to friends houses whenever I get a dinner invite. Recently, after an unfortunate incident during an experiment with fanny pack wine (hint: aim pour spout down) I got out my hand crank pressure washer and my roommate's white shirt was returned to its former glory.

Tonight I've decided to tackle a larger basket. Add clothing, hot water and homemade detergent to washer, crank from time to time, rinse and hang dry. Minimal electricity (depending on water heating source), biodegradable and not super poison detergent, enjoy with a gin and tonic!

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Thoughtful shopping

And if you can't shop local, there's a guide for what widely known/available things are from socially conscious businesses http://www.betterworldshopper.com/

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Thoughtful challenge

A colleague challenged me to write about the ways I think about living, particularly the things I try to incorporate to live more responsibly. While there are many such blogs with far more success and bragging rights on this topic, she wants to hear about me and I'm not doing anything else with this here blog spaceso: challenge accepted.

Right now I'm thinking about dinner. I made a packages soup that came in my stocking this Christmas (thanks Dad and Liz!). It had 2 small plastic bags that I had to throw away and a small cardboard box that I recycled. I added squash from my summer CSA (community supported agriculture) that I had dehydrated, leftover beans (that I made from dried for less leaching chemicals, less sodium, less $ and lower shipping impact.), "humane" chicken (so said the label but not a local farm to check) and gifted Portuguese sausage (localish farm/smoke house).

Also making roasted acorn squash from my CSA that I'd frozen w/ imported (by my father) gray sea salt, evoo (bought in bulk from the health food store in an empty beer bottle that I liked with a spout from a cooking shop) and ranch dressing powder.

Also a gin and tonic because I got yummy gin for my B-day and gifted lime juice and tonic!