Friday, June 17, 2011

P is for

"It bothers me that I so easily pass as P-compliant. However it is good to wallop people with a hefty dose of surprise radfem. (I’m like an undercover agent.)" 

From the comments in Anecdote Mania. It totally makes me feel better.

I'm realizing its almost impossible to not be seen as a funfem if one is considered attractive and self/other identified as feminist, in that even if you don't try to be compliant the p co-opts your body and makes you so anyway. I've been told that my appearance should be considered when I'm speaking to men (about healthy sexuality/sexual violence) who may find me attractive, in the same way that were I not considered attractive men wouldn't listen to me.

Patriarchy gives some people privilege over others whether or not one chooses to claim it, and it's impossible to fully reject the power you're given, it's so ingrained it takes endless labor to recognize the places where you may be privileged, and there's no way to know how much is yourself and how much is inequality, so thereby you are inherently part of the patriarchy. If you're so enlightened as to take up the feminist revolution, while still experiencing power and privilege, you're a funfem. Maybe you can only get to the work of being a radfem when the patriarchy no longer claims you as it's own and you're then free to fight it. So then liberal feminism would by definition be impossible?

Sort of depressing.

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