Friday, December 9, 2011

Part time klepto

Last night was our Board/Staff/Volunteer holiday party complete with yankee swap (my gift was literally the last one least they kept it.)

This morning there was this:
"If you ever wants to see your chicken again fill an antique-y box with leather straps with ONE HUNDRED non-brown peanut M&Ms and leave it at the Development Office."
I may have swapped my gift into the bag of the Board President-Elect and taken his trophy chicken. Despite my boss' serious efforts to blow my cover, I now await 100 non-brown peanut M&Ms. 

Friday, August 12, 2011

"Nice Guys" aren't.

+3 for “I am a nice guy.” BIGGEST RED FLAG EVER. Never in the history of the universe has a man who identified himself as a Nice Guy ever been, actually, a nice human being. Extra red flag if he follows that up with, “But women always go for assholes.”
Friendly advice from the genius of An(n)als of Online Dating 

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Is it wrong that I want this resource to read "Virginity is a social construction, a made up tool of the Patriarchy to police and inhibit people's - mostly women's - sexual freedom. It is not real. So you don't have to worry about it."

I am grateful that PP exists, and they are bold. Maybe we're just not ready to give up virginity yet...

Monday, August 8, 2011

not buying it

etsy shopper's guide 8/8/2011

You're scrolling along, looking at pretty pictures, and happen upon a blurb about "shooting freaks!!" - what fun and quirky delights!

"Have a little fun and shoot the freak! Shoot a real live human over here!"

Perhaps I'm a touch sensitive today being as the first news article I read this morning was on white teenage boys deciding to take a joy ride with the purpose of killing someone black (which they did), but I'm not loving the choice of highlights in this etsy shopper's guide. Nothing like the good fun of glamourously shooting the (female) freaks, and maybe you buy the artsy print to decorate your home.
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Wednesday, July 20, 2011

DIY craze

All of the things I'm lusting to make which would end up looking nothing like this...but I'll post pictures if I try!
Shutter Turned Shelf
Wine Bucket
Living Room
ladder shelfMix Tape
Striking Silhouette
Clip It
All ideas and photos from

Friday, June 17, 2011

P is for

"It bothers me that I so easily pass as P-compliant. However it is good to wallop people with a hefty dose of surprise radfem. (I’m like an undercover agent.)" 

From the comments in Anecdote Mania. It totally makes me feel better.

I'm realizing its almost impossible to not be seen as a funfem if one is considered attractive and self/other identified as feminist, in that even if you don't try to be compliant the p co-opts your body and makes you so anyway. I've been told that my appearance should be considered when I'm speaking to men (about healthy sexuality/sexual violence) who may find me attractive, in the same way that were I not considered attractive men wouldn't listen to me.

Patriarchy gives some people privilege over others whether or not one chooses to claim it, and it's impossible to fully reject the power you're given, it's so ingrained it takes endless labor to recognize the places where you may be privileged, and there's no way to know how much is yourself and how much is inequality, so thereby you are inherently part of the patriarchy. If you're so enlightened as to take up the feminist revolution, while still experiencing power and privilege, you're a funfem. Maybe you can only get to the work of being a radfem when the patriarchy no longer claims you as it's own and you're then free to fight it. So then liberal feminism would by definition be impossible?

Sort of depressing.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Don't call me baby

everyone wants to feel like they choose their own choices. In this case, that means that some women want to believe that their predilection for rompers and kittens and baby voices reflects their individual personalities and not some trend toward retro, non-threatening femaleness. But no one chooses their choices in a vacuum and certainly it means something that so many women seem to be finding this super-girlish, childish part of their personalities at the same time, while Katy Perry's sex and candy persona is tearing up the charts and actual little girls are being bombarded with pink, purple, princesses, tulle and sparkles. (emphasis mine).
 This article is awesome in itself - commentary on infantilization of adult women (and conversely the sexualization of girls...also the implicit racism) - but I also think this quote perfectly captured what bugs me about "I choose my choice" (non)feminism. The context doesn't disappear just because you don't want to analyze your pigtails.

Friday, June 3, 2011

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

When I grow up

I want to be like this:

"Barbara Hillary, who reached the South Pole in January at age 79, making her the first African-American woman on record to stand on both poles, said she ate too much milk chocolate during the trip. “If I had frozen to death down there, wouldn’t it be sad if I’d gone to hell without getting what I want?” she said."

New York Times

Monday, January 31, 2011

Kate the Great

9% chance of winning the privilege of buying a bottle of Kate the Great
351 tickets sold per hour for the 28.5 hours they lasted
5 tickets that Nate bought for me
? # of winners in those 5 (I haven't scratched them yet!!!)
5 days after my birthday is Kate the Great day. (30 shopping days, folks! I need a new car.)
Brewery opens at 11am. Groups of 50 every 15 minutes until Brewery is full. KtG flows til kegs are tapped.

What time should we start lining up??

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Wicked Game

"Women like 3 things: Men in kilts, Southern Comfort, and Chris Isaak’s 'Wicked Game'." Flight of the Conchords (season 2, episode 9)

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Internal Monologue

I used to see girls with weird bangs and think to myself:
"huh, that girl has weird bangs."

From now on I will see girls with weird bangs I will think to myself:
"huh, that girl probably let her friend cut her hair. been there, sister. i have been there."