Wednesday, November 25, 2009

A Feminist Thanksgiving



While the holiday itself may not be based in the most feminist of histories, I appreciate the opportunity to take pause and realize in the blur of every day all the wonderful people, places and things all around.

Danine, of Danine.net gave us in the Super Secret Feminist Blog Alliance (whom I'm SUPER thankful for!) the opportunity to give our feminist thanks. While mine is certainly not the most articulate, it's lovely to hear of inspiring feminists and feminism happening and inspiring from locally to globally.

What are you thankful for?

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

A Burning List

This may be my guiding list for the new year.

I would have added:
Another Roadside Attraction - Tom Robbins
The Little Prince - Antoine Saint-Exupery
A Prayer for Owen Meany - John Irving
The Bell Jar - Sylvia Plath

What books do you recommend?

Friday, November 6, 2009

What's changed?

So often I'm struck hard in the face with how much work there's still to be done. People confusing exploitation with empowerment, victim blaming, slut shaming, hating on women (or any minority), for blaming "othered" religions for violence rather than institutions that train men to kill.....

It gets hard to think about all the accomplishments that are happening along side. So when The Undomestic Goddess asked readers to "describe one thing that has changed for women from 1960 to present and how it has affected you." I took it as an opportunity to reflect on something positive. So here's my response (and put out good vibes for me to win the raffle for Gail Collins new book When Everything Changed: The Amazing Journey of American Women from 1960 to Present.)

My boyfriend woke up this morning to make me coffee and breakfast while I got ready for work. He's spending the day buying groceries and cleaning the house. I'm spending the day in an ALL female office. And I have no plans of marrying him.


So thanks to all the feminists that have vastly improved my ability to live. I hope my work will only continue the successes.

Monday, November 2, 2009

Gendered Halloween

So we know that Halloween and "slutty" have become synonymous for most girls. I know this, it hurts me, I refuse to participate, but I'm tired of reading about it. What else is new? So I tend to skip over articles re: gender dichotomy in Halloween costumes (tho there's much to be said in terms of bringing the socialization to light, and highlighting our "others"). If you're not familiar with this - it's perfectly described in the Mean Girls clip below.




However this comment which just came to me on a listserv sparked a bit of a lightbulb moment for me, and I was excited so I'm sharing:
Last night I noticed that very few of the young guys dressed up; they were in their usual garb of extra-wide, extra-long pants and t-shirts and jacket.
But I was amazed to see so many young women dressed and made up like prostitutes. There certainly wasn't much variety with the young women.
- Barbara Passero

The observation being not that all the boys are violent and all the girls are slutty, but that girls were the only ones dressing up at all! Are we at a point when creativity AT ALL is no longer masculine-acceptable?

Ballerina & Cat in the Hat

I went out this Halloween w/ boys(men) who were SO excited to get dressed up! One was thrilled for the opportunity to wear makeup and escape the "gay" slurs. Are younger boys now not even allowed the one night of the year where they can be expressive and creative instead of "cool"?