Friday, May 29, 2009


"According to PP, my PP does not have any i'm gonna go running, finish your CD, maybe go look for a tie, and praise my penis for being so clean"

Clean AND clever! I'm so proud of my boyfriend.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Pot: a brief history

Work email from colleague

Subject Line: FW: How Online Pornography Affects Your Marriage

Text: Something that came in the garbage mail; but thought that with your interest in pornography you might want to see.

Attached image:

To clarify - I do not have an interest in pornography as a consumer, but as an anti-porn feminist. See Dworkin, Twisty, Jensen, etc.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

__ like me

"The youngster wanted to see if the President's haircut felt like his own." From The White House Flickr

Because when we do that -- when we open up our hearts and our minds to those who may not think precisely like we do or believe precisely what we believe -- that's when we discover at least the possibility of common ground.
Commencement Address to Notre Dame 2009

Important Questions

Judi sent you a message.

Subject: boyfriend?

"boyfriend? WHAT boyfriend? I don't know about a BOYFRIEND! What is going on????? THIS sounds GREAT. I like this story, but I need to know more. What is his name? Where/how did you meet? Does he go to Burning Man? Is he a Feminist? Can he eat as much as you? Where does he live? Where did he grow up? More....How long has this been going on? Where have I been? I miss all the good stuff."

Wednesday, May 13, 2009


Snakes in the Toilet!

When I was a kid this literally was my biggest fear - that either a snake or bees would be in the toilet when I went at night and would get me. Interestingly this was never a fear for me when peeing outside...

Monday, May 11, 2009

Feminist Men

Marc via the Feministing Community illustrates in 10 (not so) easy steps how (and why) to be a good feminist man.

The Abbreviated:
1.) Look for your internal sexism (it's there)
2.) Feminism is personal AND political
3.) "Don't expect a cookie" (LOVE it!)
4.) Give up your privilege (it's there)
5.) Listen to women without agenda (not to formulate a counter argument)
6.) Walk a mile
7.) Your sex matters
8.) Down in front
9.) You're doing something because it's right, not because you're a hero
10.) Work with men

Your sister's sturdy vagina

Went to a cake decorating class last week. Learned how to work with gum paste. Made gum paste vulva (complete with clitoral flower representation and anatomically correct layers). Instructor less than impressed with vulval gum paste.

Giving gum paste vulva to sister. Showed boyfriend. Boyfriend spends day talking about "your sister's vagina". :/

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Letter to Twisty

Readers know my intellectual, one-sided love affair with Twisty Faster. I fantasize about eating tacos with her and Robert Jensen and listening to the master of patriarchy blame. Today the blaming got to be too much for me to do alone, and regular sympathizers in my physical realm are not sympathizing. So I wrote Twisty an email.

Dear Twisty,
My full time job is talking about the dynamics of domestic and sexual violence, raising awareness of the rape culture, insisting that men's violence against women isn't a myth (like unicorns), and desperately trying to convince children to blame the patriarchy. I do this in middle schools, high schools, universities, community forums, employers, health fairs, conferences, coalitions...

[...]College is the only college within my catchment area.

The Assistant Director of the Center for Women and Gender, and the Sexual Assault Awareness Program Coordinator at [...] College moonlight on the weekends as (self described) "Promo Girls". You know - the ladies who are paid to use their sexualized bodies to pass out light sticks that advertise alcohol. You know, alcohol - the number one drug used to facilitate sexual assault. Sexual Assault - the crime that never gets prosecuted because people will just want to know why you were drinking and dressed like a whore/sex object in the public sphere in the first place.

The A.D. informed me of this when on this fifth of May I was presenting to a group of 8th graders at the college on the sexualized images of women in the media and how we as girls have minimal direction in how to grow up as anything other than sexualized objects perpetuated by society at large and alcohol ads in particular. A.D. then wondered if I may see her out later celebrating Cinco de Mayo with Jose Cuervo.

HOW are girls supposed to grow up not fucked?

Also I'm reading Robert Jensen and if you ever flip through Pornography and the End of Masculinity in the bathroom I'd love to hear your review!


Caulking out Patriachy

You know that thing you really enjoy doing? The thing that gives you the illusion that your life has meaning? With me, it’s sitting around looking at bugs with their butts stuck together. With you, it’s probably weaving god’s eyes out of rainbow yarn or something. Well, whatever it is, do it all the time, and with a sort of vengeance. Because the more you focus your lobe on shit that has actual philosophic value, the fewer the lobal chinks through which New York Times Bestselling Authors can slither.

The Rubber Rose Circus