Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Years Resolutions

Have more patience and lower expectations of people
Assume the possitive
Be more proactive and dedicated
Go camping at least 5 times
Pay down debt
Grow an herb garden
Read one book a month
Expand social circle
Write (and follow) a budget
Stop buying crap-
Work on my picture face
Talk less
W.C Fields said it best: It ain’t what they call you that matters, it’s what you answer to.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

"Now we know why the Indians killed each other."

Be careful what you ask for comes to mind. I got my snowshoes but father thought it would be fun bonding to make them together! 6 hours bonding and some blood and scars later I give you examples of perfect lacing.

Will update through the varnish and binding process to come!

What's your best gift?!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Obligation to overthrow

Chris: anyway I thought your email on my obligation to overthrow the patriarchy was very well written
Chris: you made me feel pretty guilty actually although I don't know if thats completely fair
me: i don't want you to feel guilty, i want you to feel responsible
Chris: i'm not really sure what you mean by responsible
me: guilt tends to get overwhelming - people feel guilty and helpless and therefore useless. I want you to feel responsible to do something about it and make a conscious and deliberate effort
Chris: well what exactly do you see me being able to do
I'm certainly going to avoid contributing
to oppression
me: call out people when they say sexist/racist/homophobic slang
don't laugh at sexist jokes
be critical of your peers and the media
be supportive of your female colleagues
be transparent, keep volunteering, encourage others to volunteer
have conversations with people about violence against women and sexism
give money to organizations that are doing the work when you can
Chris: ok i like those except the jokes and slang one is pretty difficult
me: that's the easiest one
make an effort to educate yourself
read literature, do research, keep talking to people in the field
keep challenging yourself
Chris: i think i do that
although I pretty much rely on your blog posts

Friday, December 12, 2008

Quoted: Coaching men

Cross posted form Prevent-Connect Digest 929 and This is Rape

I would want them to be aware that historically, sexual assault was framed as a women's issue - ie: "it's their problem, let them deal with it." Thanks to the hard work of many people over the past thirty years, we've now come to realize that statistically violent assaults of all kinds, especially sexual assault, are overwhelmingly perpetrated by men (regardless of the gender of the victim); this points us toward the roots of such violence, and shines a long overdue light on masculine culture. Clearly any effort intent on eradicating violence must put educating males front and center; across the nation in the last fifteen years there has been a definitive shift toward primary prevention efforts where such education is the focus.

I would want them to be aware that the central component of sexual violence is misogyny. This misogyny perpetuates today despite the changing roles of women in the real world, because the language with which we refer to women has not shifted; much of what we say and do continues to reflect the attitude that women are no just different than men, but are less than men. Once you establish that a group of people have less value than you do, you pave the way for justifying all kinds of behavior that otherwise would be unconscionable in a just, decent, and democratic society.

I would want them to be aware that misogyny hurts men. Not just because our daughters, sisters, partners/wives, mothers, and peers are being hurt, but also because in a society where a certain identity is considered sub-standard everyone's behavior is viewed and critiqued through this distorted lens.

I would want them to be aware that if they want to end violence on their campus, they must do more than merely provide workshops for their students; they must stop
reinforcing negative belief systems. This means no more shouting at their players "C'mon, run faster you pussy!", or "You're throwing like a girl", or "It's game time, let's go beat those faggots." [yes, actual quotes from college coaches and athletes].

So, to be fair, that last point isn't a trend. Yet. Maybe instead of being curious "about 'Trends' in sexual violence and prevention work", these coaches could be encouraged to be trend setters...

Stephen Montagna

Thursday, December 11, 2008

May 18, 2009

I'm taking up a collection.

I want to go to Budapest to meet up with Christina. May 18 - June 1, 2009

The flight costs $824. We'll couchsurf for free. I'll need some food/transport/cool stuff $$.

I will begin accepting donations immediately. Your generosity is greatly appreciated. There will be a goal thermometer set up at the RRR.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

If I can't dance it's not my revolution

This is follow up to Post-patriarchy in which I wondered about art and culture in a post-patriarchal world. These are some of the comments posted to the original Twisty post which I found particularly wonderful. There were also some awesome imaginings of the abolition of "childhood" as a domination/subordination power structure which felt like warm sunshine, but were apart from my quandary of the moment.

kate (not me)Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:29 pm
T’would seem to me that art and music like anything else, would just exist and there wouldn’t be a heirarchy of “the artist” or “the musician”. Everyone would be an artist and everyone a musician. If something needs fixing, everyone would try and if one excelled, they’d deign to teach others who wished to know and they wouldn’t own that knowledge, they wouldn’t carry it around on their chest like a badge to market and to demand “respect” because respect would not be something to be demanded, everyone would have it, everyone would get it because they exist and that’s all there is; existence, the beauty of existence in all things as they are.

No one would give a damn about what one person said over another about what was ‘good’ or ‘great’ because well, no one’s opinion or version of events is any more important than the others.

Of course with this kind of fluidity with reality, I’d imagine there wouldn’t be a lot of “progress” as we know it, but then who cares? What’s the rush? Does a dog or a cat rush to find the answer to why they can’t sit at a table and eat with fork and spoon? No, they accept what is and are happy.

That’s what I think it would be. And that scares the living be-jesus outta lot of people.

In fact, I’ll bet people wouldn’t really have names beyond whatever one determined they might want to be called, but certainly there wouldn’t be “Mary’s child” anymore as each child has an identity of their own that they decide. If said child decides to be called “stick of wood” and then changes later to be called “George” who cares? Its what they want and that’s that.

TP Dec 2nd, 2008 at 4:41 pm
I was going to pipe in but kate pretty much spelled out exactly what I was thinking. Expertise would be a result of enthusiasm, rather than the pursuit of pride. Enthusiasm would be more rewarding, because you wouldn’t fear failure. I could see huge technological advances, and all of them geared toward improvement rather than profits.

Ghoti Dec 2nd, 2008 at 8:30 pm
If I’m misinterpreting this, please let me know, but it seems that the abolition of art by no means requires the destruction of photography or music or whatever other medium one uses for expression. It just removes the institutionalized branding of such expression as either “art,” which is culturally sanctioned as beyond the realm of criticism by its very definition (if one objects or finds it offensive, they “just don’t get it”), or “not art,” which can be looked at for what it really is and openly branded as vulgar, or simply not worthwhile. Calling something “art” is akin to saying “it’s my religious belief”; it can be pornographic, objectifying and irrational, but pointing this out is considered insensitive or ignorant. Without art, one can still enjoy looking at a canvas with paint on it, but not create a bizarre, untouchable mystique around the canvas that makes it out to be inherently something more than the sum of its parts, and not just a figment of human depth perception and pattern recognition.

mir Dec 3rd, 2008 at 9:55 am
Imagining a post-P world is tough for me. I try but all I come up with are rationales for why I, personally, must retain the things that I love. And by ‘love’ I think I mean ‘own’, or maybe ‘have power over’ and ‘have power over me’.

I want scorching hot sex, music with magical ass-shaking power, fresh espresso and sharp cheddar cheese. I am so much attached to physical pleasures that my obstreperal lobe is weak. I cling, and I blame. Cling, blame, cling, blame. But I’m trying.


My sister started my day off with this gem :)

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Blame the Dog

Rusty got car sick on the way back from Thanksgiving on Sunday and puked the whole way home. In my car. Then on Liz's white rug.

Last night two of us at the RRR commune were a bit gassy. We won't say which two. After one auditory slip, the girl chuckled and we jokingly blamed the dog. A bit later, similar, with more hearty laughter from another tooter.

The third, non-flatulent roommate expressed sincere concern about poor Rusty's tummy - first vomit then gas... apparently one really CAN blame the dog.


"Culture is nothing but the realization of patriarchal fantasy." - Twisty Faster

I wrote:

Sometimes I like to sit around and play with watercolors.

I dig culture as patriarchy socialization, but I wonder at the relationship. Were we globs of intellectual happiness post-patriarchy, might we spend some of our time with watercolors? Our reality would be radically different, but would still be reality, and might not some spend their happy time reflecting the new reality? Would that be art, and would the art create and influence a culture?

Is culture necessarily socializing - or necessarily within a patriarchy? Or could they be pure without the perversion of power?

What do you think?

Monday, December 1, 2008

My thought

"The true measure of a [human] is how one treats someone who can do them absolutely no good."
- Samuel Johnson

One of my most stringent criteria for being human.

Reading Suggestion

About Women's Bodies from a man I newly love.

Religion and Free Market

American Islamic Forum for Democracy. On their behalf, M. Zuhdi Jaffer, M.D. released the following in a statement:

Muslims cannot benefit from freedom of expression and religion and then turn around and ask that anytime their sensibilities are offended that the freedom of others be restricted. The free market allows for expression of disfavor by simply not purchasing a game that may be offensive. But to demand that it be withdrawn is predicated on a society which gives theocrats who wish to control speech far more value than the central principle of freedom of expression upon which the very practice and freedom of religion is based.

“…We [the AIFD] do not endorse any restriction whatsoever on the release of this videogame but would only ask those with concerns to simply choose not to buy it. We would hope that the producer's decision not be made in any way out of fear but rather simply based upon freedom of expression and the free market.” (emphasis mine)

Notably, Sony's had this problem with Catholics before about a game, and therefore had a serious trigger response to avoid it. I recommend those Catholics take a look at the above, more appropriate response.