Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Years Resolutions

Have more patience and lower expectations of people
Assume the possitive
Be more proactive and dedicated
Go camping at least 5 times
Pay down debt
Grow an herb garden
Read one book a month
Expand social circle
Write (and follow) a budget
Stop buying crap-
Work on my picture face
Talk less
W.C Fields said it best: It ain’t what they call you that matters, it’s what you answer to.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

"Now we know why the Indians killed each other."

Be careful what you ask for comes to mind. I got my snowshoes but father thought it would be fun bonding to make them together! 6 hours bonding and some blood and scars later I give you examples of perfect lacing.

Will update through the varnish and binding process to come!

What's your best gift?!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Obligation to overthrow

Chris: anyway I thought your email on my obligation to overthrow the patriarchy was very well written
Chris: you made me feel pretty guilty actually although I don't know if thats completely fair
me: i don't want you to feel guilty, i want you to feel responsible
Chris: i'm not really sure what you mean by responsible
me: guilt tends to get overwhelming - people feel guilty and helpless and therefore useless. I want you to feel responsible to do something about it and make a conscious and deliberate effort
Chris: well what exactly do you see me being able to do
I'm certainly going to avoid contributing
to oppression
me: call out people when they say sexist/racist/homophobic slang
don't laugh at sexist jokes
be critical of your peers and the media
be supportive of your female colleagues
be transparent, keep volunteering, encourage others to volunteer
have conversations with people about violence against women and sexism
give money to organizations that are doing the work when you can
Chris: ok i like those except the jokes and slang one is pretty difficult
me: that's the easiest one
make an effort to educate yourself
read literature, do research, keep talking to people in the field
keep challenging yourself
Chris: i think i do that
although I pretty much rely on your blog posts

Friday, December 12, 2008

Quoted: Coaching men

Cross posted form Prevent-Connect Digest 929 and This is Rape

I would want them to be aware that historically, sexual assault was framed as a women's issue - ie: "it's their problem, let them deal with it." Thanks to the hard work of many people over the past thirty years, we've now come to realize that statistically violent assaults of all kinds, especially sexual assault, are overwhelmingly perpetrated by men (regardless of the gender of the victim); this points us toward the roots of such violence, and shines a long overdue light on masculine culture. Clearly any effort intent on eradicating violence must put educating males front and center; across the nation in the last fifteen years there has been a definitive shift toward primary prevention efforts where such education is the focus.

I would want them to be aware that the central component of sexual violence is misogyny. This misogyny perpetuates today despite the changing roles of women in the real world, because the language with which we refer to women has not shifted; much of what we say and do continues to reflect the attitude that women are no just different than men, but are less than men. Once you establish that a group of people have less value than you do, you pave the way for justifying all kinds of behavior that otherwise would be unconscionable in a just, decent, and democratic society.

I would want them to be aware that misogyny hurts men. Not just because our daughters, sisters, partners/wives, mothers, and peers are being hurt, but also because in a society where a certain identity is considered sub-standard everyone's behavior is viewed and critiqued through this distorted lens.

I would want them to be aware that if they want to end violence on their campus, they must do more than merely provide workshops for their students; they must stop
reinforcing negative belief systems. This means no more shouting at their players "C'mon, run faster you pussy!", or "You're throwing like a girl", or "It's game time, let's go beat those faggots." [yes, actual quotes from college coaches and athletes].

So, to be fair, that last point isn't a trend. Yet. Maybe instead of being curious "about 'Trends' in sexual violence and prevention work", these coaches could be encouraged to be trend setters...

Stephen Montagna

Thursday, December 11, 2008

May 18, 2009

I'm taking up a collection.

I want to go to Budapest to meet up with Christina. May 18 - June 1, 2009

The flight costs $824. We'll couchsurf for free. I'll need some food/transport/cool stuff $$.

I will begin accepting donations immediately. Your generosity is greatly appreciated. There will be a goal thermometer set up at the RRR.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

If I can't dance it's not my revolution

This is follow up to Post-patriarchy in which I wondered about art and culture in a post-patriarchal world. These are some of the comments posted to the original Twisty post which I found particularly wonderful. There were also some awesome imaginings of the abolition of "childhood" as a domination/subordination power structure which felt like warm sunshine, but were apart from my quandary of the moment.

kate (not me)Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:29 pm
T’would seem to me that art and music like anything else, would just exist and there wouldn’t be a heirarchy of “the artist” or “the musician”. Everyone would be an artist and everyone a musician. If something needs fixing, everyone would try and if one excelled, they’d deign to teach others who wished to know and they wouldn’t own that knowledge, they wouldn’t carry it around on their chest like a badge to market and to demand “respect” because respect would not be something to be demanded, everyone would have it, everyone would get it because they exist and that’s all there is; existence, the beauty of existence in all things as they are.

No one would give a damn about what one person said over another about what was ‘good’ or ‘great’ because well, no one’s opinion or version of events is any more important than the others.

Of course with this kind of fluidity with reality, I’d imagine there wouldn’t be a lot of “progress” as we know it, but then who cares? What’s the rush? Does a dog or a cat rush to find the answer to why they can’t sit at a table and eat with fork and spoon? No, they accept what is and are happy.

That’s what I think it would be. And that scares the living be-jesus outta lot of people.

In fact, I’ll bet people wouldn’t really have names beyond whatever one determined they might want to be called, but certainly there wouldn’t be “Mary’s child” anymore as each child has an identity of their own that they decide. If said child decides to be called “stick of wood” and then changes later to be called “George” who cares? Its what they want and that’s that.

TP Dec 2nd, 2008 at 4:41 pm
I was going to pipe in but kate pretty much spelled out exactly what I was thinking. Expertise would be a result of enthusiasm, rather than the pursuit of pride. Enthusiasm would be more rewarding, because you wouldn’t fear failure. I could see huge technological advances, and all of them geared toward improvement rather than profits.

Ghoti Dec 2nd, 2008 at 8:30 pm
If I’m misinterpreting this, please let me know, but it seems that the abolition of art by no means requires the destruction of photography or music or whatever other medium one uses for expression. It just removes the institutionalized branding of such expression as either “art,” which is culturally sanctioned as beyond the realm of criticism by its very definition (if one objects or finds it offensive, they “just don’t get it”), or “not art,” which can be looked at for what it really is and openly branded as vulgar, or simply not worthwhile. Calling something “art” is akin to saying “it’s my religious belief”; it can be pornographic, objectifying and irrational, but pointing this out is considered insensitive or ignorant. Without art, one can still enjoy looking at a canvas with paint on it, but not create a bizarre, untouchable mystique around the canvas that makes it out to be inherently something more than the sum of its parts, and not just a figment of human depth perception and pattern recognition.

mir Dec 3rd, 2008 at 9:55 am
Imagining a post-P world is tough for me. I try but all I come up with are rationales for why I, personally, must retain the things that I love. And by ‘love’ I think I mean ‘own’, or maybe ‘have power over’ and ‘have power over me’.

I want scorching hot sex, music with magical ass-shaking power, fresh espresso and sharp cheddar cheese. I am so much attached to physical pleasures that my obstreperal lobe is weak. I cling, and I blame. Cling, blame, cling, blame. But I’m trying.


My sister started my day off with this gem :)

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Blame the Dog

Rusty got car sick on the way back from Thanksgiving on Sunday and puked the whole way home. In my car. Then on Liz's white rug.

Last night two of us at the RRR commune were a bit gassy. We won't say which two. After one auditory slip, the girl chuckled and we jokingly blamed the dog. A bit later, similar, with more hearty laughter from another tooter.

The third, non-flatulent roommate expressed sincere concern about poor Rusty's tummy - first vomit then gas... apparently one really CAN blame the dog.


"Culture is nothing but the realization of patriarchal fantasy." - Twisty Faster

I wrote:

Sometimes I like to sit around and play with watercolors.

I dig culture as patriarchy socialization, but I wonder at the relationship. Were we globs of intellectual happiness post-patriarchy, might we spend some of our time with watercolors? Our reality would be radically different, but would still be reality, and might not some spend their happy time reflecting the new reality? Would that be art, and would the art create and influence a culture?

Is culture necessarily socializing - or necessarily within a patriarchy? Or could they be pure without the perversion of power?

What do you think?

Monday, December 1, 2008

My thought

"The true measure of a [human] is how one treats someone who can do them absolutely no good."
- Samuel Johnson

One of my most stringent criteria for being human.

Reading Suggestion

About Women's Bodies from a man I newly love.

Religion and Free Market

American Islamic Forum for Democracy. On their behalf, M. Zuhdi Jaffer, M.D. released the following in a statement:

Muslims cannot benefit from freedom of expression and religion and then turn around and ask that anytime their sensibilities are offended that the freedom of others be restricted. The free market allows for expression of disfavor by simply not purchasing a game that may be offensive. But to demand that it be withdrawn is predicated on a society which gives theocrats who wish to control speech far more value than the central principle of freedom of expression upon which the very practice and freedom of religion is based.

“…We [the AIFD] do not endorse any restriction whatsoever on the release of this videogame but would only ask those with concerns to simply choose not to buy it. We would hope that the producer's decision not be made in any way out of fear but rather simply based upon freedom of expression and the free market.” (emphasis mine)

Notably, Sony's had this problem with Catholics before about a game, and therefore had a serious trigger response to avoid it. I recommend those Catholics take a look at the above, more appropriate response.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

How boys change the world



"People more powerful than any you've known will enter your life over the next decade, forcing you to reassess your priorities. This may take a while to notice, but it can begin as you get involved with new social groups or organizations. Not surprisingly, as your friends change, so will your world. Even if you cannot yet fathom what's ahead, just remember to voluntarily let go of the past when it's time. Struggling to hold on to the wrong things can exhaust you when you need your energy for something more important."

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Being Tired

Today culminated 6 weeks of Volunteer Training which I coordinate/facilitate essentially as a volunteer. 6 weeks of my life dedicated to unpaid overtime.*

I came home to my warm (bat free) house to my housemates waiting with a beer (the offer of a beer, we've already drunk all our beer, easily remedied with a cocktail) and cooking celebratory bacon cheeseburgers and roasted potatoes. We put on aprons and flair and watched The Office and I will go to sleep snuggling with my dog (after I lure him down and lock him in my room so he won't go sleep with Liz).

I really like my life.

*Last night in an overtired stupor I honestly thought the two explanations possible for the mystery flashing light in my bathroom: rapist or ghost. Turned out to be the Wii.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

The woes of dating

I'm going on a date that I'm hesitant about and stumbled upon Samhita's Tuesday Top Ten at Feministing

Ten things I absolutely hate about heteronormative dating
In no particular order.
1. You are expected to dress nice and act a certain way "waiting" to get asked out.
2. You have to play by the rules which generally give men most of the power. (wait till he calls you, don't be too forward, be mysterious-you don't want to scare him off, etc)
3. If you show emotion too early on or too much of it, you are needy.
4. If you don't show enough emotion, you are making the other party insecure forcing them to wield social privilege to silence your daring attempt at independence from self obliteration via coupling.
5. It fetishizes unequal power relations between women. He'll get the tab, he'll get the door as long as he gets the vagina, and that is considered "romance."
6. It makes same sex couples feel "less than."
7. It dictates your interaction in most social settings and social circles, whether you are single or coupled. It is either/or, there is no 3rd identity or in-between.
8. If you have sex too early you ruined it.
9. If you don't have sex early on you are a prude.
10. It is expected to lead to marriage (and if you don't have a ring on your finger you are "on the market.")

Some of you may remember my recent decision to cleanse my aura and put out "available" vibrations. It's getting a bit more serious now as my boss has now several times asked "are you sure you like boys" and seems unconvinced. (Side note: I am a grown ass woman. I know and own my orientation. Just because I am 23 and single does not mean that my entire identity is a cloak of denial. If I liked girls I'd not be dating girls right now, and probably feel the same complacency about it. Whatever.) But here's my addition to the list:

I met a person at a party and told him I was feminist. He looked incredulous and said "why, no one needs feminism anymore." because "I don't descriminate, I'm gender-blind". If you've read my blog, you know. Apparently said guy doesn't get himself told very often and so I find myself with a date.

It is normal in this patriarchal day and age for a woman to base her worth on her ability to pull a date. Fine. I've come to terms. HOWEVER my feminist core has a big deal problem with being fetishized. You think it's "cute" that I talk back? So adorable when I get all feminist-y?

#11. Your entire demeanor is assumed to be in attempts to attract men.

I've got my orientation figured out; that's the problem.

Friday, November 14, 2008

In among the election day celebrations my own, dear freshman year RA was elected to City Council (son-of-immigrants-first-to-go-to-college-american-dream always wins. Congratulations to him. And because of this I've been charged with an important task. I'm posting it here with you all as witnesses:

me: it's (referring to the "safe haven" law in Nebraska that has gone tragically wrong) funny in terms of how out of touch law makers are
TullyFRL: agreed
thats why you need to keep me grounded

It will be my proud, patriotic duty, my friend.

Thursday, November 6, 2008


I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world, because they'd never expect it.
- Jack Handey

An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is an adventure wrongly considered.
- G. K. Chesterton

The best way to keep one's word is not to give it.
- Napoleon Bonaparte

Thursday, October 30, 2008

More Serious Matters

"I was thinking spitting out the marshmallow would definitely happen right after you say chubby bunny. I was thinking it would be one at a time and we'd stop watch it. I don't see why a little gamesmenship wouldn't be tolerated. I'll look the other way." - The Ref

Room Draw Relay Olympics begins 5pm tomorrow. Place your bets now...God hope there won't be pictures...

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

The Election and Racism

From Racialicious

Race is an issue in this election. Class is an issue in this election. Violence Against Women is an issue in this election. Homophobia is an issue in this election. The issue is Human Rights, people. As in your right to be human.

*Side note: When I get down because smart people in my life seem to lose it when it comes to this election and smirk that I'm idealistic, irrational, I'm uplifted to be in the company of those above.

Monday, October 27, 2008

When Life Begins

But the right answer, as a matter of international human rights principles and simple justice, is: human rights attach at birth, not at conception.This is the only position that ensures that upon becoming pregnant, women do not lose their human rights.

Political candidates of all persuasions should rest assured that to oppose the recognition of human rights before birth is not to deny the value of potential life as matter of religious belief, emotional conviction or personal experience. Rather, it is to recognize the value of the women who give that life.
-Lynn Paltrow

Sunday, October 26, 2008


The average man, who does not know what to do with his life, wants another one which will last forever.
- Anatole France

Wednesday, October 22, 2008


"Sexism isn't just the denigration and devaluation of women; it's the myriad ways the system is set up to benefit men over women. It takes no hateful behavior on my part to reap the rewards given to men at the expense of women. But to choose not to work for the full equality of women in this culture is to be sexist."
-Episcopal Bishop V. Gene Robinson

Monday, October 20, 2008

Palin Post

Availability Aura

*PISCES** *The Dreamer (Feb 19 - Mar 20) Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details. Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser. Beautiful.

Just putting it out there...

Monday, October 13, 2008

Sharing Repo-responsibility

Man-made hormonal birth control just for women. Why isn't there man-made hormonal birth control for men? Because the man knows how demon it is to fuck with hormones. There's much more of this from me, but I think the article is well done. I escaped my BC stint relatively unharmed (altho with enough weight on me than only pneumonia could knock it off) and never actually used it to prevent pregnancy but I have a pretty solid vow not to go back on. Share the responsibility, indeed.

In my next life I want to be Kate Rohdenburg

I leave for a conference in VA this afternoon. Last night/week I attempted to pack for the 6 days I will be away and ended up with a total 6 shoes, 5 scarves, 4 sunglasses.
As I told Adina, "I can't be pigeon holed into a faulty outfit" I can't figure out what I want to wear today, let alone a week from now in a new city with different weather! Lets just hope I end up there with pants.

Speaking of great outfits, JJ finally posted our group BurningMan Pictures. Real life is so boring.

Friday, October 10, 2008

Words of the Wise

I share this video from Liz not as an example of fine cuisine, but for the life perspective offered by the chef. My favorite being "who needs to be rich? It's not like I have to do a bunch of coke to be happy." And how.

An Open Letter to White Voters

From Racialicious

Thursday, October 9, 2008


Some professional pictures of BurningMan. It's interesting to look through and recognize some things, places, art, dust, and even people - and to see how much I missed.

About that age

Kate: I got a dress today that was $12 with the sole rationale that within the next 2 years everyone I know's gonna start getting married

Matt: how much dress do you get for 12 bucks?

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Northern Mimosa

"Wow – I think you just blew my mind with your Northern Mimosa talk… that sounds fantastic!" - Actual quote from a convert

Northern Mimosa: Equal parts cider and (real, extra dry) hard cider. If you prefer mulled cider, mull then cool and add hard cider immediately before serving.

Can you think of a more appropriate fall-in-New-England beverage???


Feminism is not stupid*.

“Feminism means women’s individual or collective rights to autonomy, to define their lives as they see fit. It thus suggests equality between the sexes.”

Patriarchy is seen not only as a system that oppresses women, but also as one that structurally and conceptually creates, sustains, and justifies hierarchies, competition, and the unequal distribution of power and resources on an endless variety of levels."

“What gives my actions their moral value is not necessarily my intentions, but rather their effects on others – specifically, those people who are disenfranchised by my privilege, those marginalized by my sense of entitlement. They, rather than I, were the ones to name those effects. What’s more, they got to say what I needed to do to redress the damage.

I cannot know the reality of those subordinated by the system of values that entitles me.” -Red Crowley

*and saying that it's stupid will not get you a date.


npurmort: I love how you treat your personality as currency at a value which you solely determine

I've decided loose change in non-change-designated spaces is up for grabs. I made $.21 yesterday.

Sunday, October 5, 2008


There is no excellent beauty that hath not some strangeness in the proportion.
- Sir Francis Bacon

“A girl can’t add and worry about whether her stomach sticks out at the same time. College students were asked to try on either a swimsuit or a sweater and keep it on for 10 minutes in a dressing room. To pass the time they took a math test. As you would expect, the women in the sweaters did significantly better on the test. (when the experiment was repeated with young male subjects, the sweater/swimsuit performance difference disappeared.) – Patricia McLaughlin Valley News April 8, 2007

Men act and women appear. Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. [Simone de Beauvoir, 1949, 16]

Quote of the Day

I know that you believe that you understood what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.
- Robert McCloskey

Friday, October 3, 2008

VP Debate

Time Magazine

Friday, Oct. 03, 2008
Klein: Palin Was Fine, But This Debate Was No Contest
By Joe Klein

She did fine, I suppose.

She was animated and confident. She displayed an ability, for the first time since her convention speech, to repeat with a fair amount of credibility, the formulations that her handlers had given her. You knew she was well prepared when practically the first words out of her mouth were, "Go to a kids' soccer game..." She had that folksy thing down—although I did notice, watching the squiggly lines down at the bottom of the CNN screen, that when she tried to get cutesy with her folksiness, it didn't work.

She also was allowed to do fine by Joe Biden, who never really challenged her—his criticisms were always directed at John McCain—and never exposed the obvious shallowness of her knowledge on most topics. (He must have been sorely tempted to correct Palin when she called David McKiernan, the commanding general in Afghanistan, "McLellan," but Biden was hard-wired—I imagine his debate prep was a form of electric shock therapy—not to correct her, attack her, disrespect her.)

Indeed, Sarah Palin's high-energy performance in the vice-presidential debate was the most glaring demonstration—since George W. Bush's performances in 2000—of how little you can get away with knowing and still survive one of these things, especially if the rules limit the cross-examination as severely as they did in this debate. Her relentless opacity was impressive. She refused to answer the questions where she hadn't been prepped with answers and when Biden pointed out that an early question had been on deregulation not taxes, she flashed: "I may not answer the questions the way you and the moderator want to hear, but I'm gonna talk straight to the American people."

Talk straight she didn't, with only a few exceptions. She talked talking points. And when the talking points concerned areas where she didn't know diddly, she didn't talk them very convincingly. Indeed, there were times I got the distinct impression that she didn't understand the points she was talking about (on the vice president's constitutional powers, for example).

Joe Biden, by contrast, demonstrated a real knowledge of the issues in question. He made several verbal fumbles—it was Syria, not Hizballah, that left Lebanon—and at times he lapsed into legi-speak, even using plague words like "amendments" and "Liheap" (the winter heating oil assistance program for poor people). But his was a solid, informed and restrained performance—although his best moments came near the end of the debate (when much of America had turned to the baseball playoffs or reruns of their favorite sitcoms on cable). He was genuinely moving when he talked about being a single parent after the death of his wife (he almost began to weep, but held it together); in fact, that moment was more real than anything Palin said all night. He also closed with a devastating point: McCain was, sure enough, a maverick on some things, but not on any of the issues that really mattered in this election—and he listed those issues, and where McCain stood on them, to great effect.

It was striking to me—for the second time in two debates—that the Democrat got much the better of the argument on Iraq, especially if you watched the squiggly focus group lines on CNN: it seems clear that people just want the war to end. Biden did marginally better than Obama on the substance of the issue, pointing out that the Maliki government agrees with Obama, not McCain, on the timetable to withdraw U.S. troops (which Obama failed to mention last Friday).

The fact that Palin made it through the debate without running off the stage shouting, "I can't do this!" should not obscure the fact that there was only one person tonight whom anyone with any sense—even John McCain, I imagine—would trust as President. Biden's performance was strong and, happily, gimmick free. He used no gotcha soundbites, no consultant-driven silliness—a fact driven home by the lameness of Palin's snark lines like, "Say it ain't so, Joe" and—pace, Gipper—"There you go again, talking about the past."

Palin's problem, and McCain's, is that the recent past is crucial in this election. Bush's decisions over the past eight years—to go to war in Iraq, to neglect the war in Afghanistan, to aggrandize the rich and neglect the middle class—created the dreadful moment this country faces right now, and people know that. Fearful for their futures and the nation's, they seem to be looking for something different—and that something involves steadiness, knowledge and some clear ideas about what to do going forward, qualities that Sarah Palin did not display tonight.

What she did show was some folksy charm and some energy—qualities that might get her selected for Dancing With the Stars, if not Jeopardy. But that's not enough to change the trajectory of this race, especially since nothing that was said in this debate will be remembered, or remarked upon, a week from now.

Fakin' It Ain't Feminist

Love this so I'm cross posting from Feministing.

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Political connections

My freshman year RA is running for office. He's the one not listing "married with children" as an experience qualification. I promised I wouldn't blog any compromising tidbits until after 11.4 - I do have some good photos tho...


When I got home I said "mom! want to see my new tattoo" and she goes "I was wondering what was taking you so long." It's kinda awesome that my working late has transferred into a persona that could plausibly be out on a Tuesday night getting the local PD insignia carved into my (raging) bicep.

It's not real.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Good Stuff

Liz got the job - she's in. My check came through - I'm in. Sarah's in. Our application is submitted - our house is *almost* in. All signs are a go! Congratulations are *almost* in order.

Kate: we're going to have a dance off to decide rooms
Dan: you'd best get practicin' then!
Kate: i'm not sure which is the best room
Dan: you can decide that later
Dan: all that matters is you win and get first pick
Kate: i'm going to rely on my natural coordination
Dan: Whatever you do, Kate, don't do that.

Friday, September 19, 2008


I got a scholarship to a conference I'm going to next week - it even covers some of the extra expenses beyond the conference fee. The qualifying requirement was to write an essay on how I would add to the diversity of the conference.

My mom asked if I lied.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

What's racism got to do with it?

This is Your Nation on White Privilege
Tim Wise

White privilege is being able to say that you support the words “under God” in the pledge of allegiance because “if it was good enough for the founding fathers, it’s good enough for me,” and not be immediately disqualified from holding office--since, after all, the pledge was written in the late 1800s and the “under God” part wasn’t added until the 1950s--while believing that reading accused criminals and terrorists their rights (because, ya know, the Constitution, which you used to teach at a prestigious law school requires it), is a dangerous and silly idea only supported by mushy liberals.

White privilege is not knowing what the Bush Doctrine is when asked by a reporter, and then people get angry at the reporter for asking you such a “trick question,” while being black and merely refusing to give one-word answers to the queries of Bill O’Reilly means you’re dodging the question, or trying to seem overly intellectual and nuanced.


Sometimes when I can't quite articulate what I'm thinking it seems someone else can. I have mixed feelings about this review of the Burn because what I've struggled with most is my expectation of the community he writes of; I was realistic about the dust, and the heat. I was ready for the nudity. My biggest disillusionment was realizing that my utopic expectation wasn't the truth about BurningMan for everyone.

And there were all those people who wanted to know more about you, what you were about, and you felt like it was ok to talk from the heart, and for a change you didn’t worry about what they’d say or think later. You didn’t feel the cynicism creeping in the way it normally does, because it was a different scene. Yeah, you still made fun of funky hippies (How many hippies does it take to change a lightbulb? None. Hippies don’t change anything”), but most of the time you went for it, you decided to be genuine, and it came right back at you.

Alright, alright, maybe I still have a little dust in my eyes. But it felt that way more than it didn’t.

I’ll say this, though: It wasn’t the crazies and party hearty-ers on the playa after the Burn who made me want to stay. The bizarreness and randomness and kind of desperate revelry weren’t much of a lure. People were too weird, too out there, too nutsy. (And it seemed like the words “leave no trace” didn’t hold much weight that night; there was lots of crap being tossed around pretty casually.)

As time goes on and the default people keep asking "would you go back" I have a stronger and stronger physical desire to say "yes". Maybe I need to take more responsibility to seeking out the people who will uplift my next experience, or maybe I'm getting stuck in a mastery cycle to prove if I try again I can make the experience what I envisioned.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Lipstick on a Wingnut

I can't help it, I'm obsessed with Sarah Palin.

Katha Pollitt's article in The Nation is too good.

For all you doubters reading the blog (and I know you're out there) this may not satisfy your claim that my research is faulty, but I think it presents some valid suggestions for the debate. I mean if we're all for being informed and enlightened...

September 10, 2008

John McCain chose the supremely under-qualified Sarah Palin as his running mate partly because she is a woman. If you have a problem with that, you're a sexist. She talks incessantly about being a mother of five and uses her newborn, Trig, who has Down syndrome, as a campaign prop. If you wonder how she'll handle all those kids and the Veep job too, you're a super-sexist. "When do they ever ask a man that question?" charges that fiery feminist Rudy Giuliani. Indeed, Palin, who went back to work when Trig was three days old, gets nothing but praise from Phyllis Schlafly, James Dobson and the folks at National Review, who usually blame all the ills of modern America on those neurotic, harried, selfish, frustrated, child-neglecting, husband-castrating working mothers. Even stranger, her five-months-pregnant 17-year-old, Bristol, gets nothing but compassion and respect from Bill O'Reilly, Rush Limbaugh and others who have spent their careers slut-shaming teens for having sex--and blaming their parents for letting it happen.

If there were an Olympics for hypocrisy, the Republican Party would have more gold medals than Michael Phelps. And Palin would be wearing quite a few of them. It takes chutzpah for a mother to thrust her pregnant teen into the world's harshest spotlight and then demand the world respect the girl's privacy. But then it takes chutzpah to support criminalizing abortion and then praise Bristol's "decision" to have the baby. The right to decide, and privacy, after all, are two of the things Palin wants to deny every other woman, and every other family, in America. Palin's even said she would "choose life" if her daughter was pregnant from rape. Can't you just hear Bristol groaning, "Mo-om...!"
The Republicans bashed Barack Obama as a "celebrity," but now they've got a star of their own, so naturally the rules have changed. Nothing would suit them better than for the media to spend the next two months spellbound by the wacky carnival on ice that is the Palin family: Todd, aka the First Dude, the kids, Levi the hunky bad-boy dad-to-be--well, maybe not him so much after his expletive-adorned MySpace page briefly came to light ("I'm a fuckin' redneck"; "I don't want kids"--whoops). The snowmobiles, the moose burgers, the guns, the hair, the glasses that are flying off America's shelves (starting at $375 a pair, and she has seven). Fretting over the work/family issue alone should take up enough column inches to employ all the female journalists in America from now to next Mother's Day. And don't forget that op-ed staple, What Does This Mean for Feminism?

Well, I'm not playing. I don't care about Sarah Palin's family. I don't care if she's a good mother. I don't care if she's happily married, or who shops and who vacuums, or who takes care of the kids while both parents are at work. I don't want her recipe for caribou hot dogs, either. Life chez Sarah and Todd might make an adorable sitcom (Leave It to Jesus?) or a scathing tell-all a decade or so down the road (Governor Dearest?). Either way, so what? This is an election, not The View. As for feminism's meaning, what can you say after you've said that her career shows that even right-wing fundamentalist women have taken in feminism's message of empowerment and that's good, but that Palin's example suggests women can do it all without support from society and that's bad?

Count me as a feminist who never believed that being PTA president meant you could be, well, President. The more time we spend on dippy ruminations--how does she do it? Queen Bee on steroids or the hockey mom next door? how hot is Todd, anyway?--the less focus there will be on the kind of queries that should come first with any vice presidential candidate, and certainly would if Palin were a man. Questions like:

§ Suppose your 14-year-old daughter Willow is brutally raped in her bedroom by an intruder. She becomes pregnant and wants an abortion. Could you tell the parents of America why you think your child and their children should be forced by law to have their rapists' babies?

§ You say you don't believe global warming is man-made. Could you tell us what scientists you've spoken with or read who have led you to that conclusion? What do you think the 2,500 scientists of the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change are getting wrong?

§ If you didn't try to fire Wasilla librarian Mary Ellen Baker over her refusal to consider censoring books, why did you try to fire her?

§ What is the European Union, and how does it function?

§ Forty-seven million Americans lack health insurance. John Goodman, who has advised McCain on healthcare, has proposed redefining them as covered because, he says, anyone can get care at an ER. Do you agree with him?

§ What is the function of the Federal Reserve?

§ Cindy and John McCain say you have experience in foreign affairs because Alaska is next to Russia. When did you last speak with Prime Minister Putin, and what did you talk about?

§ Approximately how old is the earth? Five thousand years? 10,000? 5 billion?

§ You are a big fan of President Bush, so why didn't you mention him even once in your convention speech?

§ McCain says cutting earmarks and waste will make up for revenues lost by making the tax cuts permanent. Experts say that won't wash. Balancing the Bush tax cuts plus new ones proposed by McCain would most likely mean cutting Medicare, Medicaid or Social Security. Which would you cut?

§ You're suing the federal government to have polar bears removed from the endangered species list, even as Alaska's northern coastal ice is melting and falling into the sea. Can you explain the science behind your decision?

§ You've suggested that God approves of the Iraq War and the Alaska pipeline. How do you know?

Friday, September 12, 2008


I haven't had the time (or inclination really) to put my thoughts on my first Burn together in any coherent frame, nor do I have pictures yet. My assumption is that instead of one post these may leak out as time goes on.

I did have some thoughts around what surprised me about the experience - the whiteness of it. At one point one of my travelmates commented to the organizers of our village (who were discussing this mystical Chrystal that they got from Machu Picchu)"I don't know...this seems like white-man get your own Chrystal". Apparently we weren't the only ones.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

The Republican Ticket

I generally try to live and let live - even people I know are misguided, but I honestly think that people enamored of Sarah Palin in particular (ticket in general) are stupid. Actually less intelligent.

A citizen of America will cross the ocean to fight for democracy, but won't cross the street to vote in a national election. - Bill Vaughan

The "new feminism" may include uncritical support for women who oppose teen pregnancy programs and for women who force rape victims to pay for their own rape kits. But I just don't see where support for women who persist in fabricating their own records is a feminist principle. -Dahlia Lithwick

LA Times
Sen. Barack Obama is being lambasted for his statement about Sen. John McCain and Gov. Sarah Palin's policies not being about change but "just calling the same thing something different."

"You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig," Obama said during a town-hall style event in Virginia on Tuesday night.

As you probably recall, Palin got applause at the Republican National Convention when she said that the only difference between a pit bull and a hockey mom (meaning herself) is that the latter wears lipstick. I think there are a few other differences, but I won't go into that here.

Now McCain's camp is acting outraged, outraged! It is accusing Obama of talking about Palin, calling Barack's comment "offensive and disgraceful" and saying Obama owes Palin an apology. This war hero and his self-described pit bull are so sensitive!

Meanwhile, McCain may have conveniently forgotten (hey, the dude's, like, really old) that he once used the same analogy in a 2007 Chicago Tribune article about Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton's healthcare plan. And I didn't hear anything about Hillary demanding an apology.

"I think they put some lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig," McCain is quoted as saying about Clinton's proposal.

If I were a pig or a pit bull, I might be offended. But right now I'm a little more worried about my mortgage, the price of gas and the economy, stupid.- Elizabeth Snead

Time Magazine

Conservative vs. Radical. What the candidates’ running-mate picks say about the kinds of Presidents they would be

Both the major-party candidates for President have now made their first major decision – on a running mate – and I can’t remember a year when the selections were more revealing about the character of the candidates. What we have is a choice between a conservative and a radical.

The conservative is Barack Obama. He is a careful man, perhaps to a fault. His vice-presidental selection process was quiet, orderly and comprehensive. The selection of Joe Biden was no great surprise – he added experience to the ticket, a reliable loyalist and gleeful attack dog, a working-class Roman Catholic with a terrific personal story. The process was in keeping with the rest of Obama’s candidacy: he has taken no great risks. His policy positions are carefully thought out and eminently reasonable, reflecting the solid middle ground of a Democratic Party that is more united on substance than I’ve ever seen.

This small-c conservatism is, in part, a calculation. Obama doesn’t want to seem angry or threatening, for obvious reasons. But it is also a reflection of who he really is: a fellow who does not like to disappoint anyone, who is obsessed with finding common ground. That may be a great advantage in a President at this ugly moment in our history – but I would feel more comfortable with Obama if he took an occasional play with John McCain’s book of partisan transgressions and gored some Democratic oxen. It would be nice if he, say, challenged the teachers’ unions, which didn’t support him anyway and whose work rules choke out any chance of creative experimentation in the public-school system. Or if he stood against the atrocious Farm Bill, which spreads unnecessary fiscal fertilizer upon an already profitable industry. Or if he didn’t feel the need to promise a tax cut to 95% of American families.

But Obama’s weakness for undue prudence seems downright virtuous compared with the recklessness that McCain showed in choosing Sarah Palin as his running mate. He had months to make this choice, but he allowed it to come down to a chaotic scramble in the last week – a reaction, it seems, to the fact that the Republican Party elders had vetoed his first two choices, Senator Joe Lieberman and former governor Tom Ridge. McCain wasn’t going to give the bosses the choice they wanted – Mitt Romney – and he cast about, deciding on Palin, an occasional maverick, at the last minute. He had never worked with the governor. He had spoken to her a few times. His team, it now seems clear, had not vetted her very well. In her first appearance alongside McCain, she claimed to oppose the “Bridge to nowhere,” that Alaskan icon of pork mythology, but she had supported the bridge until it was clear that the hullabaloo would prevent it from being built.

As the week progressed, it became apparent that Palin stood diametrically opposed to McCain on issues large and small. She passed a windfall-profits tax on the oil companies – the very sort of tax that McCain excoriated Obama for favoring – which successfully swelled the coffers of the Alaskan treasure. She didn’t believe global warming was a man-made phenomenon; McCain had confronted Republican orthodoxy on that issue – boldly, at first, and timidly more recently.

Palin was a blatant porker when she was mayor of Wasilla, hiring a lobbying firm to rake in the projects; she was close to the corrupt megaporker Senator Ted Stevens, a frequent McCain adversary and champion of the mythic bridge. Rather than putting “country first,” her husband had been a member of a local secessionist fringe group called the Alaskan Independence Party, whose slogan is “Alaska first,” and Palin apparently attended or spoke at several of the group’s meetings. Her lack of interest in foreign policy and national security was the opposite of McCain’s obsession with such issues. She called the Iraq war a “task that is from God.”

Indeed, it seemed Palin and McCain held common ground on only two high-profile issues – an admirable rebelliousness when it came to their party’s hierarchy and their opposition to abortion rights. Given the fact that McCain’s top two choices for Vice President, Leiberman and Ridge, favored abortion rights, it would not be unfair to conclude that McCain’s devotion to this issue was more political than personal.

The Palin selection – peremptory, petulant – was another example of McCain’s preference for the politics of gesture over the politics of substance, as is his sudden fondness for oil exploration (“Drill here, drill now.”) and hair-trigger bellicosity abroad (Syria, Iran, Russia). His lack of interest in actual governance is disappointing; his aversion to contemplation seems truly alarming. He as done us all a favor with this pick: he has shown use exactly what sort of President he would be. - Joe Klein

An Open Letter to Sarah Palin from the National Advocates for Pregnant Women
Dear Governor Sarah Palin:

Many Americans agree with your position regarding abortion -- they do this as a matter of faith, ethics, personal experience and sometimes politics. I am just wondering though, if you have thought about what would happen if you succeeded in getting your position -- that fetuses have a right to life -- established as the law of the land? Did you know that it not only threatens the lives, health and freedom of women who might want or need someday to end their pregnancies, it would also give the government the power to control the lives of women -- like you who -- go to term?


Governor Palin, you have led an extraordinary life, balancing work and family, public service and private family obligations. We hope you know though that your freedom relies on exactly the same legal principles that guarantee that American women can choose to have an abortion when they need and want one.- Lynn Paltrow
Zombie Feminists of the RNC
...What Palin so seductively represents, not only to Donny Deutsch but to the general populace, is a form of feminine power that is utterly digestible to those who have no intellectual or political use for actual women. It's like some dystopian future ... feminism without any feminists.
(On the co-op by the GOP of "feminism" and misrepresentation by the mainstream media calling Palin a "new feminist")- Rebecca Traister

Also see my collection of video clips

While I don't take responsibility to do additional research for readers of the blog - do it yourself if you don't like what I post - I will make an effort when I come across to clear up confusion. As such there's additional information out that confirms that rape victims were not only charged for their own evidence collections during Palin's mayorship, but that she knew about it. Enjoy.

Friday, September 5, 2008

yea, I think "duh" too.

BYO BubbleWrap

I'm moving out of the batcave this weekend and setting up tent elsewhere. I haven't time to post but had to share a priceless bit of research that was waiting for me upon my return to the world of internet:

On the lyrics of Kanye's Stronger:

Apollonia 6 was a 1980s female singing trio created by Prince as a continuation/succession of a previous group, Vanity 6.

and 'since oj had isotoners' is talking about this:

Isotoner is a manufacturer of gloves, slippers, etc. Gloves and shoes were a key part of the OJ trial because of the bloody glove found and the rarity of the shoes which made the footprints at the crime scene.

So the song is basically saying that he's "been on ya" since at least the early 90's.
-My friend Liz

Tuesday, September 2, 2008


Doctors are criminal.


I made it back with nary a sunburn but lots to consider. My highest aspirations now would be to continue my processing of the experience, potentially in writing, and be able to share it once I have some pictures to assist the illustration. It could happen but it may take awhile and, ultimately, you really have to have been there.

For those dissatisfied with that cliche, feast your eyes on BurningMan via google satellite. I think it's from past years which means it was actually much bigger this year, but it gives the general lay out idea...

Wednesday, August 13, 2008


Abby gave me all her "reject" beads and Molly's giving me handspun wool to hang them on. I'll bejewel myself and gift them to admirers. I officially have the best gifts ever! Molly's giving me beeswax too to make lipbalm! Women crafted awesome!

Tent-off on Friday!

Thursday, August 7, 2008


PS - I have a MAJOR friend crush. She knows Umphrey's and Disco Biscuits, we drive the same green CRV, her birthday is the day before mine, she likes camping and hiking and kayaking, and she's a professional baker (while I am a professional baked goods eater). This is big.

*Friend-crush; Experiencing a strong desire to become friends with a person you don't know very well. "Wow, that girl is so cool! I totally have a friend crush on her."

Felt like a lifetime

"tell me you don't really bring guys home from bars. Lie if necessary." My dad's so proud of his little girl...

In the past weeks 2 of my friends (in the Upper Valley) of similar age have broken up (separate relationships). Both with in the week have gone on at least 1 date with a new acquaintance. I have been here a flippin year with less luck. Not only do I feel this is totally unfair, I've taken drastic measures.

Clearly my aura's got some "unavailable" contaminants. I've rearranged the rings on my fingers (which is really uncomfortable and totally chaps my feminist hide as a waste of finger space sacrificed to the powers that be over a tradition I don't even subscribe to) and taken the next steps. Chris says I should wait until after BurningMan so I don't end up with a jealous boyfriend after a week of nudity in the desert.

Finally, my funeral song keeps coming up on Pandora. It's eerie

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

coffee, puppies and meth

Must read commentary on the 15 most sexist commercials.

"The next morning wifey serves it and daddy approves, sending her into such a paroxysm of delight she looks like a puppy who got into your meth drawer."

Monday, August 4, 2008

Gettin' Lucky

Some months ago mine was the only office left to be painted. With a move in deadline looming I informed my colleagues that since none of my dead-beat friends would help me, the goal for my bar hopping that night would be a painter. Low and behold, the next morning Andrew and I got to work.

This past week again it became necessary to find a man* willing to fight bats. I informed the WISE woman that the Salt Hill quest of the night would be to find such a man. Find him I did**. With frying pan in hand he smashed any sleeves that might have housed dark princes of the night, and (I believe) put out a certain bat-repellent vibe. I have nary heard nor seen one of the dastardly winged mammals since.

My boss tells me I have a peculiar definition of "getting lucky" on a Friday night. I think I sensed a tone of pity.

*The male specification not being due to any gender variance in bat-fighting ability, but merely because I like boys.

**We didn't actually see any bats that night, which leads to an interesting predicament. Let's call him Batman. Were I any other than the utmost principled and ethical of feminists, it may appear that this were all a clever ploy to use the age-old damsel in distress scenario to lure an innocent into my batcave. Were Batman to suspect that I had ulterior motives for that bat hunting sleepover (Which I do not!!I really do have bats!) and pair that with a past history of infiltrating Batman's friend-circles (we just have similar taste in people!) this could be incriminating. I would like to take this opportunity to assure all interested parties that this is all completely coincidental. Although I would be quite the seductive mastermind were it not...

The only other note-worth mention of the weekend is that I went blueberry picking along with blind-friend date girl and Chris. This is only significant in that afterwards it was clearly necessary to make blueberry pancakes, and with those blueberry pancakes Chris and I ate an entire pound of bacon. No wonder this gym thing isn't working out...

Friday, August 1, 2008

Blueberry Muffin

Happy birthday Brit-Muffin!

Wednesday night brought another fleeing-the-bats-in-the-middle-of-the-night saga. That story line's getting a little played out.

In the midst of sleep deprivation I had a blind friend-date last night. It went well, despite my best efforts to appear crazy. We have plans for a second to go blueberry picking this weekend, then "we" are going to bake pies. By we, I mean I'll make cocktails, she'll make pie (she's a pro baker. That's her job).

August. I have mixed feelings. August brings Christina and BurningMan, but is followed by September. There's summer dresses I haven't even worn yet.

I rejoined the gym this week.This is significant.
*In the three months I was gym-less I've reverted to the worst shape since high school. mucho depressing. My horoscope says this about it:
Remember that the littlest details of your daily routine can make you feel better or worse over time. Don't waste energy worrying about a particular ailment. Just pick something that you can do every day, such as an upgrade to your diet or exercise program, to improve your total wellbeing.

Translation - stop worrying about death-by-rabies and get your fatass to the gym.

*I paid for a year. My commitmentphobe self is bound to the Upper Valley until August 2009. I was going to do 6 months, so as to have my lease and my membership expire simultaneously and make me free. But I committed. That's growth.

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

On why our hero doesn't have a boyfriend

You may be sweet on someone today, but you won't likely show your feelings. It's not that you're worried about the response you might get; it's that you don't feel comfortable when you aren't in control of your actions. It's easier to avoid the whole situation than to skirt around the edges of your own discomfort. Fortunately, you can transfer your unexpressed energy into work that others will surely appreciate.


Monday, July 28, 2008

What is the appropriate behavior for a man or a woman in the midst of this world, where each person is clinging to his piece of debris? What's the proper salutation between people as they pass each other in this flood?
- Buddha

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

friggin giant spider roaming my desk. what is with the creepy crawlies lately??

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

I am a vampire

I was woken at 2am to bats. In my apartment. Not a bat. Bats.

Apparently the local police department is not to protect and serve citizens losing sleep to winged mammals. The dispatch lady will laugh at you. (I would like to know what more pressing matters the Lebanon PD has at 3 am).

After an hour of sitting on the floor with my head covered and the front door open I came to some conclusions. 1. this is why people have boyfriends. 2. I'm moving into my closet at work.

I drove to Sunapee at 3:30 to climb in my little sister's bed to the sound of other furry rodents. These ones running in wheels. Try packing an overnight back while keeping duck and cover.

UPDATE* According to the NH Department of Fish and Game nurse on call I have to get SIX FUCKING SHOTS Rusty only has to get one.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Being White

If I had an ethnic base to identify from, if I was even Irish American, that would have been something formed, if I was a working-class woman, that would have been something formed. But to be a Heinz 57 American, a white, class-confused American, land of the Kleenex type American, is so formless in and of itself. It only takes shape in relation to other people.

--Cathy Thomas

From the blog Stuff White People Do (not to be confused with Stuff White People Like which is less social justice/racial introspective and more stereotypical)

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

The chief dangers of marijuana seem to spring from only one of its features: it's illegal

But do the health effects of pot seem very serious? As dangerous as those of alcohol, tobacco, overworking, fashion magazines or overeating? Nope. In fact, the health effects of pot are not nearly as dangerous as the jail they throw you in for possessing it.

People get beat up, shot up and locked up because of the great amount of money that rides on selling the stuff, stuff that would be about as expensive as lettuce if it weren't against the law.

Dr. Scott Haig
See the related study (that Americans smoke more pot)

Friday, July 11, 2008

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Make your reservations early

I'm am officially booked through until September. I do not have a solid weekend open until the 5th. There may be some leeway for those willing to travel to the Upper Valley.


When I was a youth (below the age of 6) I decided that communion bread was yummy. The church didn't slack on the body of Jesus with just any loaf of Wonder Bread. I decided to investigate. I found the nice older lady who was in charge of prepping Jesus for our monthly redemption and asked her if there was ever any leftover bread after communion. I mean, what does one do with leftover savior? As I suspected, those little soul-saving squares were not the end of the goodness so I suggested that they give me the leftover bread to feed the birds. I was a cute kid and must have made a good argument that birds need saving too. It was agreed and every first Sunday of the month after the service I got what was usually a good half-loaf of the savory lord. I would then go outside, throw a few perfunctory chunks at whatever wildlife was hopping about, and would stuff my face with the rest. The things a girl does for carbs. I never did figure out a way to grab the grape flavored blood to wash it all down with

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Kate +Beer=Great

Kate the Great

Not just the author of this blog! I did not get any because my contacts in the Portsmouth area were apparently asleep at the brewery. This will be punished and/or forgiven when the next keg comes around and I receive a gift...

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Countdown: 2 months (exactly)

Plane Ticket: $457

Entheon Village: $333

Becoming a bonefide Burner in T-2 months: butterflies up and down in my tummy (good, sparkly, naked, day-glo butterflies)

It's all happening!

Monday, June 23, 2008

Once again

There's nothing like walking into the bathroom and suddenly having everything become clear: Why I feel like crap, why I look like crap, why nothing's helping and I can't stop eating and the sky is gray and why absolutely the whole world is against me. Then like a lightning bolt one trip, much like the hundreds you make every day* finds the answer. And of course it's on a day when one wears a white skirt to work...

*no?! not hundreds?! just me!?

Thank you!

Even if romantic love eludes you today, make time to acknowledge the amazing people in your life. You are richer in spirit because of those special folks who took the time to teach you something crucial when you needed it most. Now it's your turn to return the favor by thanking your friends and going out of your way to impart a bit of your wisdom to someone else.

So - who wants some wisdom?

Friday, June 20, 2008


New album out - PeaceBlaster - hoping to see them this summer with Umphrey's I just have to say I'm a massive fan of the CD tagline: Peaceblast the Homogeny.

Chance of thunderstorms

My horoscope tells me this is the longest day of the year. Whatever your plans, enjoy them. After today we're on our way back to snow...

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Birth Charting

Yay for drunk astrology (via facebook!):
you have jupiter conjunct ascendant in aquarius, which is all about optimism, generosity, buoyancy, happy-go-lucky, philosophical, and put that all under the heading of ECCENTRIC and GENIUS. it's all about being original and individualistic, hard to pin down, you definitely follow beat of a wonderfully strange drummer. all about freedom from societal expectations. that's so funny!!!!!!!!!!!! i love your chart. i'm gonna look again. but there's your ascendant which is right on the money: AQUARIUS. about causes, ideals, intellectual. what do you think baby!!!??

you have your moon in sixth house like me. this is an indication of service. service being important to you emotionally, helping other people through your work. sixth house is a pain in the ass in that it affects your health. moon being about emotions, there is a strong connection between your health and your emotions. but with your jupiter conjunct ascendant you don't have much to worry about, probably don't get sick too much.

your personality, persona, how you present yourself to others, is ACCENTUATED hardcore. so first you have jupiter conjunct ascendant like i said, that makes your personality larger than life. but then your sun is also in first house which adds even more fuel to the fire. a lot of your chart highlights first impressions and your style of interacting with the world. that's awesome. kind of explains why people either hate or love you - you come across so strongly that people have to make a choice or something.

you have lot of really easy aspects of sun. i.e. between sun and moon, sun and Pluto, and sun and MC. meaning, your emotional life is pretty stable, or at least doesn't mess with you a lot. also you have a good ability to transform and make changes for yourself when you want to . with MC means you will be able to express yourself in your career, and your career will find you. your career, what you choose to do, will not be at odds with you. it's gonna be a good one!!! for you i mean. you're pretty blessed in terms of finding good work

What do YOU think, baby?

I like my neat clairvoyant friends!

The One Where I Vomit

vaginal lubrication signals the first stage of female submission to male

From an essay on Christian Domestic Dicipline.

well...I'm all dried up...

Monday, June 16, 2008

100 things

So there's this guy that decided he wanted to have only 100 things. Now, having read what he includes as things, and that he's not counting shared items I believe this number is somewhat flexible, but the idea is to minimize - for the sake of anti-consumerism and anti-dependency on stuff. I left this comment on the blog:
The thing is - I actually do LOVE some of my stuff. And while most of it is shabby and hand-me-down that's what adds to the charm. While I often times feel cluttered, I don't want to part with my clothes, or my pillows, or my books. I also don't know how to makeit work when one lives alone and has to account for all the kitchen/bathroom/cleaning/pet etc supplies. Does food count? Does it make a difference to the consumer aspect if things are from a thrift store or yard sale? Is the point to consume less or to have less? I'd love to hear people's thoughts as I consider how to engage in a personal way...

Partially in response to a quote that we should use things and love people - I agree with loving people, but I also love some of my things - and partially as a request for some brainstorming collaboration. I think at least I'd like to take the summer to inventory my things and maybe organize in a more productive way. I live in a tiny space with hardly any storage and when I move in January I'm assuming the space will be smaller and shared. Here are some things I'd love some feedback on:

Dave isn't counting shared stuff - this includes his kitchen, living room etc things and I don't have shared stuff, it's all mine (except Rusty's... do I not count his?) So how do I do that? Can I count "kitchen stuff" in a different way? What about food or cleaning supplies - are those counted or is it only non-consumable items? Could I say that a place setting is one thing and get rid of anything beyond say 6 settings?

Secondly - there are some things I love. My pillow collection (probably a good chunk of 100 if I have to count them all individually), my books (same issue), my CDs. I have cinderblocks instead of bookshelves - can I group them? And don't get me started on my clothes, although I guess I could go by the "if you haven't worn it in a year" to weed through.

Holiday/seasonal - you know how I love themes, can I really throw out all my St. Patty's day beads?

What about my toys? What if they fit in one defined unit - then could I avoid counting them as individual? Every thing that fits in this one box is one. And shoes?!


I think I am going to take some time this summer to at least start a catalog of my stuff and weed through each category to make sure what I have are the things I love most, and those I'm only ok with are out.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Visualize hands on your back

I believe very much that the work you are doing has an underlying role of healer. The history and related emotional energy that created race tensions today (slavery, genocide, rape, subjugation) is extremely deep and powerful. There is no way to do the work you do and not feel some of that energy. It is not for the faint of heart. And many, many people are afraid of it, whether they want to admit it or not.

Healers in my husband’s tradition do a lot to protect themselves and stay grounded in what they are doing. So make sure you always are kind to yourself, connected to your greater purpose and clear that what you are doing is facilitating this interaction, not controlling it. This may take the sting out of taking things personally.

Many, many people from different backgrounds are thankful that you are doing this work on their behalf. Visualize their faces and hands on your back when you feel down. Trust me, they are there.

From Racialicious

Wednesday, May 28, 2008


Mid conversation someone I've been working with weekly for the past month asked me what my husband thought about one particular plan I was musing over in passing conversation. WHAT? He legitimately has thought I was married by virtue of the ring I've worn on my left hand since 11th grade. My high school class ring. I suppose generically speaking it's not a totally preposterous idea for someone unfamiliar to assume that a mid-twenties-professional-rural-devastatingly-attractive-and-intelligent-woman would be married. Sure left me baffled.

Anyway I'm more an engagement musket type gal.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008


What an age we live in. I can facebook chat my mom but I can't rid myself of the monthly and debilitating Aunt that we call Flow shedding itself to rock my body from the babymaker out.

hi mommy

Huh! Howd you do that?

us kids understand technology

very cool - it feels like big bro is watching - I can't get away with a thing!
what's wrong with your uterus?

it's expelling unused lining

and you need to announce this to all my facebook friends why?

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Why we blog

[bloggers] like the idea that there’s a place where a record of their existence is kept — a house with an always-open door where people who are looking for you can check on you, compare notes with you and tell you what they think of you. Sometimes that house is messy, sometimes horrifyingly so.


Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Best Day Ever!

*It was supposed to be rainy but turned out bright and beaming
*My outfit was awesome
*I got my economic stimulus check that I thought I wasn't going to
*A co-worker baked me a loaf of bread (of awesome bread)
*A board member (and heavy friend-crush) bought me a TV. First new TV I've ever owned. She seemed astounded that I don't have a cable hook up, but seemed ok with my response that I would use the new TV for my PlayStation.

2 down, one more 12 hour day to go and my very first (and potentially last) Volunteer Training is OVER!!*

If you'll excuse, I'll be in my Love Sac watching my TV...


Monday, May 19, 2008


From: Kate Rohdenburg
Sent: Friday, May 09, 2008 2:25 PM
To: 'Kristan Huppe'
Subject: RE:

I seriously think facebook is bad for my stability. My mood legit depends on whether or not someone messages me back in a timely fashion. Not good.


From: Kristan Huppe
Sent: Friday, May 09, 2008 2:25 PM
To: 'Kate Rohdenburg'
Subject: RE:

Facebook is the number one cause for adult depression. They have medications you can take for it, but mostly it takes will power. Remember, just because you and I have no life and are online 24/7, doesn’t mean that everyone else is. You should try out some new sites like Myspace or chat rooms. I’m here for you if you need to write on my wall. You know I will respond fast.

Sunday, May 18, 2008


Mom, Manda and me went to LuiLui's for dinner. We had rolls and the greatest dipping oil, spinach dip, chicken asparagus ravioli with brie cream sauce, and a glass of sangria. Having finished dinner, sipping on my drink the bottom of my stomach fell out I realized the most crucial decision of my day would be to finish my drink or run immediately to the bathroom in order for all the junkfood of the week to clog the industrial toilet. I finished the drink. In a hurry. Obvi. Then I bought shoes.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

RIP Albert Hofmann

Albert Hofmann, father of LSD, dies

GENEVA - Albert Hofmann, the father of the mind-altering drug LSD whose medical discovery inspired - and arguably corrupted - millions in the 1960s hippie generation, has died. He was 102.

Mr. Hofmann died yesterday at his home in Burg im Leimental, said Doris Stuker, a municipal clerk in the village near Basel where Mr. Hofmann moved following his retirement in 1971.

For decades after LSD was banned in the late 1960s, Hofmann defended his invention.

"I produced the substance as a medicine. … It's not my fault if people abused it," he once said.

Incidentally Bicycle Day just past (4.16) commemorating the first ever intentional dose of LSD by Hofmann. 102's not bad for a doser.

Monday, April 28, 2008

Monday Discussion

Cross-posted from This is Rape consider the statement:
"Consent is more attributed than exercised" taken from the study Sexual Boundaries: An Examination of the Importance of Talking Before Touching

Post comments at the other site to maintain dialogue.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

At least I'm a "cute" baby eater...

your blog is taking heavy criticism from my right-wing friends
i had dinner with them tonight

well was it a well informed conversation?

Aliza Shvarts was the next topic of conversation
Jim and Pam** (from the NYE party) were present, and they took your side with me
that you're actually a good person, with intelligent rational views on feminism
Pam said you were cute and seemed intelligent

and the rest said what? i was fat and illiterate?

no, Jack Cashill* wasn't too open minded about your blogs apparently
as he brought up that fox news article immediately afterward
thinking that was the end-all-be-all of feminism

all feminists play with aborted fetus juice

yeah, something to that effect
I'd like to see the two of you in the same room together
you're both really awesome people
with EXTREMELY different views
I don't think he's met someone who can explain it well (like you)
he just sees that feminists kill their fetuses for art projects and sort of assumes that's the main line you all toe
it's obviously not fair nor open-minded
but he really needs to meet someone like you to convince him otherwise I think

**Names changed to protect the innocent
*Not his real identity

Monday, April 21, 2008

i think im more like fred savage from wonder years

and you are like jenny from forest gump

Kate Rohdenburg
ok then what's my sitcom?

darleen from roseanne

Intellectual Crushes

30 minutes long and awesome!

Sunday, April 20, 2008


It was a glorious weekend for thrift store books. My collection now includes:

Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century - Boston Women's Health Book Collective (1998)
Black Like Me - John Howard Griffin (1960)
Jane Eyre - Charlotte Bronte (1847)
The Winter of Our Discontent - John Steinbeck (1961)
Of Mice and Men - John Steinbeck (1937)
The Picture of Dorian Gray and Other Stories - Oscar Wilde (1890s)
Poems - Maya Angelou (1969-1983)
Wouldn't Take Nothing for my Journey Now - Maya Angelou (1993)
The Sun Also Rises - Ernest Hemingway (1926)
Little Women - Louisa May Alcott (1868)
Hunger Pains; The Modern Women's Tragic Quest for Thinness - Mary Pipher, Ph.D. (1995)
White Oleander - Janet Fitch (1999)

All that and a purple leather belt for less than $10. I'm going to need some more cinder blocks...