Monday, December 31, 2007

Happy New Year!

I'm nervous!

Sunday, December 30, 2007

What the Smile on my face meant


The best birthday
LOTS of great live music (Langerado, Umphrey's, Citizen, Soulive, Gym Class Heroes...)
Some falling outs, some reconnection, some new amazing people
5-P Penguin Pizza
Siri came to visit
Dad + Liz 4evr
Graduation Summa Cum Laude
Job a week later
Apple picking and cider donuts
Big sunglasses and leg warmers
Decompression Party
My dog likes me the best

Quite the year. I remember more good than bad. I have great hope for 2008.

As for New Years Eve - last year was hands down the best NYE of my 22 NYEs thus far. Tomorrow I host the NYE Finer Things Bash along with my pal Nate. I've picked my dress, watched Martha Stewart DVDs and spent about $300 on booze. There will be chocolate shot glasses and a full dinner and if nothing else - I've horded a gigantic bottle of champagne for an emergency. Everyone cross your fingers with me 'cause I have high expectations...

Happy New Year!

Friday, December 21, 2007

The purpose of life

That being said, off to the WISE holiday party...

Happy Holidays everyone!

Monday, December 17, 2007


Nate: "This reminded me of you:"

Nate: "it would cost over $3000 to fill our dining room 4' deep with play pit balls."

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Cell v. Human

And it's always risky to pit the idea of "baby," to which people respond with unconditional love, against the idea of "woman," which they may say they value in the abstract but on a case-by-case basis judge rather harshly.

Egg Initiatives Crack Open the Case Against Women
By Gloria Feldt
WeNews commentator

(WOMENSENEWS)--Every sperm is sacred when it has fertilized an egg, to paraphrase Monty Python's satirical lyric from "The Meaning of Life."

But all joking aside, the meaning of a woman's life will likely be before voters next year in states where efforts to grant legal personhood to fertilized eggs are on the ballots.

Colorado's proposed initiative extends the state's constitutional protections to "any human being from the moment of fertilization." The Colorado Supreme Court has approved that wording and it will appear on the ballot if it garners just 76,000 signatures.

Similar initiatives and referenda are in various stages of development in Michigan, Mississippi and Montana. And it's highly likely the wave will extend far beyond states that begin with "M."

If passed, women would become less than second-class citizens. Our status as persons would become legally subordinate to fertilized eggs even before a pregnancy is established.

According to the Center for Reproductive Rights, the U.S. Supreme Court's Gonzales v. Carhart decision last April--for the first time giving more value to potential fetal life than to the pregnant woman's life and health--demonstrates that threats to federal protection for reproductive rights are real. The center's attorneys predict at least 30 states--including Colorado, Mississippi and Michigan--would outlaw abortion in a nanosecond absent federal restraints.

But I'm not ringing alarm bells.

Opportunity Knocks
I'm sounding the gong of opportunity. Fetal personhood initiatives could be the best thing since Roe v. Wade legalized abortion in 1973. Maybe even since Griswold v. Connecticut made birth control legal in 1965.

That's if, and only if, the pro-choice movement confronts the challenge head on and goes boldly toward a new moral rhetoric and legal agenda rooted in human rights.

Roe and Griswold based their expansion of women's rights on a presumed constitutional right to privacy which, though valuable and necessary, doesn't speak to higher-order ethics. So privacy isn't always sufficient to protect women's bodily integrity and moral standing in the law.

Let's face it: Weigh the moral scales of privacy against life and there is no contest. That's precisely why a woman's right to her own life in full, not just physical survival, must be given sufficient weight to tip the scales of justice to a human rights framework for reproductive self-determination.

The reason reproductive rights, including the right to choose abortion, are advancing in many--even unlikely and more religious--parts of the world like Mexico, Ethiopia and Portugal is because proponents of these advances are grounding their jurisprudence and rhetoric in human rights agendas.

Human rights also pack a more compelling moral punch than does the concept of choice. To me, "choice" means nothing less than the basis for all morality. But "choice" has been used for so long in a commercial sense (e.g., you get to choose the color of your lipstick) that its usefulness in arguing the meaning of life has been compromised.

U.S. women--once at the vanguard and now in danger of full retreat--must demand that our childbearing decisions are honored as ours--and ours alone--to make. The brazen clarity of the motivation of the egg-first push gives us a golden opportunity to affirm women's human rights and be resolute in expecting our society to display a sense of justice toward us.

Controversy Is Good
Having been in this battle for many years, I understand why the thought of fighting it out vote by vote over a subject many Americans would as soon not think about strikes fear into the hearts of veteran activists for a woman's right to choose.

There's no question such campaigns consume vast financial and human resources better spent providing reproductive health care and education. And it's always risky to pit the idea of "baby," to which people respond with unconditional love, against the idea of "woman," which they may say they value in the abstract but on a case-by-case basis judge rather harshly.

But controversy grabs public attention. It creates a platform for messages otherwise lost in media overload.

When an ambivalent electorate has had to grapple with such fundamental issues, time after time they have come down on the side of common sense, provided they have adequate information and courageous leadership willing to take a clear stand.

I learned this firsthand when anti-choice forces in Arizona (where I was then CEO of a Planned Parenthood affiliate) announced they were launching a 1992 ballot initiative to outlaw almost all abortions, "The Preborn Child Protection Amendment." Pro-choice hand-wringing was rampant. I predicted it would be the best organizing vehicle we could possibly have. Despite being outspent 4-to-1, we defeated the initiative 2-to-1 in a typically red state.

Last year South Dakota voters turned back their state legislature's draconian abortion ban, though by a much smaller margin, smaller in my view because the debate centered on circumstances justifying abortion rather than principles of women's self-determination.

Voters Reject Anti-Choice Measures
In between, almost every anti-choice ballot measure has been defeated by a vote of the people.

The same can happen in Colorado and the M-states and beyond, but only if the pro-choice movement embraces the opportunity and truly becomes the reproductive justice movement advocating for the human rights of women.

So far, reactions have been disappointingly mired in the ruts of old thinking.

"All fertilized eggs could use the courts, and that lays the foundation for a potential onslaught," a Colorado NARAL representative said.

Yes, a court quagmire could result. But the legal minutiae are not what matter most.

Nor should we give in to the very real temptations to treat the whole thing as a hoot. Yes, it's absurd to wonder about our new egg-dated birthdays and to point out that pregnant women travelling overseas might have to get passports for their fetuses. It's somewhat more compelling to speculate that hormonal or intrauterine birth control would be criminalized.

Those approaches might win short-term victories, but over time they will push our rights to the vanishing point like Mum and Dad's 63 children in the Python spoof. The kids were eventually sold for medical experimentation because their parents, whose religious ideology deemed every sperm sacred, couldn't afford to care for them once born.

The newest ballot measures put the core question of the relative value of women and fetuses front and center. It's a public debate that, if engaged fully and courageously, will write a new refrain: Every woman's life is sacred.

*Also check out Eileen McDonagh's Breaking the Abortion Deadlock: From Choice to Consent

side note: when i read abortion related things - specifically how people want to tell me that a cell mutation from my own body is more important than me, i want to have an abortion out of spite

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Dressed for feminism

"the big lie of liberal feminism: that you as an individual woman can liberate yourself by being good enough, savvy enough, enlightened enough (and of course, by dressing for success)."

Monday, December 10, 2007


someone: I'm pretty sure you could make a case that everything leads to violence against women
me: interesting
i would suggest that's because we live in a patriarchal society which exists on the premise of violence against women
without violence, patriarchy wouldn't exist
someone: i think we used to
me: we use to live in a patriarchy?
someone: yes
me: we still live in a patriarchy.
someone: not completely
me: absolutely completely
someone: possibly not at all soon
me: not likely
but my hope is someday
someone: you want hillary then
me: hillary has not much at all to do with it
someone: wouldnt she
me: no
lots of feminists have penis's and lots of vaginas are misogynistic

"someone" = educated, white, middle class, christian, able-bodied, heterosexual man.
"me" = educated, white, middle class, christian, able-bodied, heterosexual woman.

Happy Monday!

There was no creamer at the office today so I trudged through the snow in my stilleto boots to get some. The guy at the gas station gave me a chocolate. My boots leave funny footprints.

Friday, December 7, 2007

Open Love Letter to John Krasinski

"Hi, my name is Kate. I'm an education co-ordinator for an anti-violence and stalking center in NH. I've seen you on TV and I love you. The kind of love where we make babies together. I think we would make very attractive babies. We should be together. My mother and coworkers agree. If you're single and interested please write back. We would have to meet at your place though, as I currently live in my mother's basement, and there are strict rules on fornication before marriage.

Your Future Wife"

66 years

Since the attack on Pearl Harbor.

Becoming Radical

From Beyond Multiple Choice

Sadly, women's studies classes too often convey this same point of view, thinly disguised. Whether it's the queer-theory, gender-performativity folks bringing on the revolution via drag parties; or the third-wave crowd confessing that they like nail polish and missionary-position sex and what of it (what, indeed?); or the "sex-positive," whips-and-leather crew selling dominance as hot and radical. . . well, sometimes I just don't recognize this movement as what I signed on for, even as recently as the late 80's. (I can't imagine what the second-wavers must be thinking.) I guess it's a lot easier to display your rebellious spirit when you're not being asked to think about (let alone do) anything particularly demanding. It's probably even easier when you can believe that whatever you're already doing is itself positively revolutionary—or, more chillingly, that doing to others as you've been done to is really what liberation is all about.

My students, for the most part, aren't buying it. They are hungry for distinctions of value, for something besides "anything goes." They sense that their culture is seriously deranged at some pretty deep levels, and they want some way to understand and navigate the (mostly crappy) choices that this culture offers them.

Also hear her speak (it's long):

Thursday, December 6, 2007

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Post from work

I email myself quotes and tidbits as I wade through the piles on my desk and in my email. I will unload some periodically on here. Discuss amongst yourselves (or in comments...)

"I don't know that we need to change women's behavior. I am pretty clear
that we need to change men's." - Rus Funk (discussing strip clubs and pornography and it's perpetuation of violence against women).

Dateline experiment in Predatory Drugs (I LOATHE "date rape"). This makes me NEVER want to go to a bar. Having been drugged - dispite all the "proper precautions" - I absolutely resent sharing living space with guys who are not only not appauled, but enthusiastic about drugging women to Rape them. Even more, I resent implications that I hear every day about women being "stupid" drinking too much, accepting drinks, leaving drinks unattended. Make no mistake. It is not being intoxicated that makes me vulnerable when I go out. It is being a woman.
"An attorney is but a condom," he bragged, "protecting the prick who's screwing someone else."

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Adina's midnight post

Man Finally Put In Charge Of Struggling Feminist Movement

The Onion

Man Finally Put In Charge Of Struggling Feminist Movement

WASHINGTON—"All the feminist movement needed to do was hire someone who had the balls to do something about this glass ceiling business," said Peter "Buck" McGowan.

npurmort: nice blog post -- who's adina?
me: adina is a girl from NU that I adore, she thinks i'm smart and savvy
npurmort: haha
if she only knew...
me: i met Adina in social theory and was totally intimidated cause she's so academia smart and i was tryin to keep up
and she decided i'm a womans study genius and got into the minor
it's awesome that's cool
me: and she likes my blog
i love her it sounds like the two of you have a friendship through mutual admiration
me: kinda neat yeah, it is


"You're missing some good ice bashing"

:(...stupid work...